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remember when tommen fucked margaery and nobody kicked up a fuss at all, everyone was like ‘GET IN THERE LAD’ and tommen was like 14? 15? with a woman in her late 20s who he had no connection to really other than just ‘this is who you will marry’. he has lust because she’s attractive and he’s happy to sleep with her, but that’s it.
but arya fucks gendry, age 18, when at most gendry is 22/23 in the show (he certainly wasn’t older than 17 in season 2, and i’d place my bets on him being 16 tbh, so a 4-5 year age gap). both are consenting adults, with history, who trust and care and love each other. love, not lust. just look at the way they look at each other in that scene.
I just left my husband alone with our two children for sixteen days. I was not worried about anything regarding the house, their food, or their wellbeing. I put all the appointments in the family calendar and my husband checked it and kept them. I literally did not worry about them. I missed them, and I was sad that they missed me, but I didn’t worry about them AT ALL. I need to impress upon you all that I missed their company, but was not worried for their welfare.
I also did no meal prep. I don’t even think I went shopping right before I left.
This is not about apples and oranges. This isn’t even about my husband. This is about the fact that this is apparently WEIRD.
Another mum at my daughter’s school is leaving for ten days. She’s taking her youngest (who is a very small baby) and leaving her husband with their two girls. She has been cooking for days preparing freezer meals. She’s panicking and deputizing her six year old to remind him how to make school lunches. AND I AM APPALLED.
A) He is definitely not helpless. (He’s a doctor or something.) What gendered bullshit. B) THAT LITTLE GIRL IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER SISTER’S WELLBEING. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. C) Why is she married to this person and creating children with him if he’s this big of an idiot?
While she was laughingly recounting this, the other mums were nodding and smiling sympathetically, like oh yes, I too have my caveman at home!! Such managing required! I was the only one who was like “Dude, he’ll be fine. Literally. He will be fine.” I said it a lot. She was not convinced. She kept bringing up her older daughter. She’ll be like a little mum!
NO.
NO NO NO NO.
NO.
Straight women, don’t do this shit. It’s gross. Don’t infantilize your husbands and then expect your daughters to pick up the slack. So fucking gross. So. So. GROSS.
The fact that so many adults think a six year old girl is more capable of learning and performing basic domestic tasks than a grown-ass man says it all, really.
This stuff is so toxic and awful. I told a car full of women one time that I refused to be in another relationship until I met a man who was capable of making his own doctors’ appointments and washing the dishes. They told me I was going to die alone.
Fuck this shit. Don’t enable men’s incompetence and label it cute.
throughout my entire childhood my mom did all the housework and it’s always been a “joke” that my dad can’t even work the washing machine right and it’s honestly so stupid. men need to be able to take care of themselves and women need to stop enabling this sort of behavior.
being a female means avoiding eye contact with men to not draw attention to yourself as a potential target
Being a male mean avoiding eye contact with women because they might think we are ugly
hmm yes being a target of abuse is equivalent to thinking you’re ugly
this is literally it. male idea of oppression is women not being sexually available to them when they want them to be. that’s why whiny internet men cry so much about the friend zone. this is literally it for them.
“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” - Margaret Atwood
